There’s an interesting pair of videos making the rounds, with both male and female versions. A couple of pickup artists made the vids after learning that while women’s greatest fear in online dating is meeting up with a serial killer, men are most fearful of meeting someone fat. Not having access to any serial killers, they compared male and female reactions to finding out their Tinder date was morbidly obese.
They arranged to have a female and male actor each go on five Tinder dates over the course of a day, weighing “a little more” than their Tinder photos revealed. This was accomplished with a Shallow Hal strategy, i.e. grotesque fat suit and giant fake chins.
I find it curious and ironic that PUAs conducted this “social experiment” because it busts a couple of red pill myths:
Women enjoy rejecting men in a nuclear fashion. (Wrong)
Women only want the top 20% of men. (Wrong)
First the guys’ response to the deception, from HuffPo:
The results were nothing short of awful. Responses ranged from quizzical to angry. One guy claimed he was married. Another went to use the bathroom, but never returned.
“You look kind of more voluptuous … Are you pregnant?” one man asked before saying “I really don’t appreciate people lying to me,” and leaving.
“It’s very upsetting,” another said. “I’m a little upset. I wasted gas and my time to come over here, and I can’t do this.”
Of the five matches, only one stayed the entire time — although, at one point he did ask her: “Do you like to eat?”
He actually said “I bet you’d like to go out for a 13 course meal.” Still, he didn’t flee, which earned him the compliment of being “sweet.”
Now the girls:
When the Tinder matches met the man who was made up to appear heavier in person, they were not nearly as blunt as their male counterparts. Although each one acknowledged he looked different from his photos, most were nice. Three were willing to continue the date or go out with him again, and one gave him a kiss.
I can’t blame anyone for being annoyed at this level of deception. I expect that both the guys and girls were disappointed and annoyed. Especially since the dates followed a period of chatting on Tinder before meeting.
On the other hand, there are no guarantees in dating, especially with an app like Tinder. Complaining about having wasted gas is over the top rude. No one invested anything but a short meeting. It doesn’t even appear that coffee was purchased. And two of the guys lied to make their exit.
I was pleasantly surprised by the behavior of the five women. The one who was hardest on him actually suggested a date for the weekend – related to food!
He was a funny guy. Misanthropic in an amusing way. Easy to talk to. The fat suit didn’t change that, so the women enjoyed meeting him. They went with the flow, and did not feel entitled to any particular outcome.
Male Asshole Ratio: 4/5
Female Asshole Ratio: 0/5
Did PUAs make these videos to affirm that men hate fat chicks? Or that women don’t care about looks? What do you think is going on here?
Does this illustrate sex differences? Are women more empathic?
Because men are more visual, it’s not surprising they would be more disappointed by the deception. Were their responses appropriate? How should they have handled the situation?
How does this make you feel about the claim that women are way too picky? Does this video suggest otherwise?
Check it out for yourself and let me know what you think!